New Friends, Old Friends, and Unfriend.

These wonderful ladies are some new friends I made since moving to the country. Boy, do we laugh. Thanks, ladies!
These wonderful ladies are some new friends I made since moving to the country. Boy, do we laugh. Thanks, ladies!

Recently, I discovered someone I’ve known since I was 10 “unfriended” me on Facebook. I know, who would do that? I’m nice to everyone. I was rather impressed she had the time to comb through her “friends” and bother to delete me at all. But, she did and that’s that. She isn’t the first friend to change their status with me, in real life I mean, and she won’t be the last. Over the years I’ve had friendships end on a bad note and others that just ended without a sound. I realize now most friendships need to end at some point and I don’t have to make such a loud stink about it. It’s better to go quietly. Which we all know, being quiet is very hard for me. (Go ahead, ma, chime in. I know you want to.)

I’m a firm believer we walk a path with our friends and when we no longer need each other the path splits and we go our separate ways. There’s nothing wrong with that. I’m sure you’ve all heard that saying, “a friend for a season, a friend for a reason…” It’s true. When I look back over my life I see it was time for a friendship to end and then another friend steps on the path to walk with me for a while. It’s amazing, really.

Ladies need their girlfriends. We need someone to laugh with, cry with, vent to. We need that person in our life who with only a look knows exactly what’s going on inside us. The friend to crack up with in the dressing rooms when you’re trying on bras and can’t remember where your boobs are supposed to go. The friend to laugh with about raising kids, because some days if you don’t laugh, you’ll cry. And remember my parenting tip, better they cry than you do. But we need our friends to cry with too. Someone who can watch our faces turn red, our eyes swell up, and our noses run and still love us for the sloppy mess we’re making.

I’m okay with leaving the path from people I’ve called friend. It made space for new friends to come in. But there are a few women who’ve walked with me for a very long time and I hope the Universe sees fit to keep us on the same path until the end of the road. Love you all!

This friend is chained to me. She can't leave the path even if she wants to! Ha!
This friend is chained to me. She can’t leave the path even if she wants to! Ha!
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8 thoughts on “New Friends, Old Friends, and Unfriend.

    1. Thank you! And I’m proud to call you friend too. I’m glad we’re walking the path! Can’t wait to see you! (I know, too many exclamation points.)

  1. You are a sweetheart Stacey. One of those people I never see enough of. I could never quit you! I love following all your progress. 🙂

  2. Great post, Stacey. Guess I know this on some level. Most of my friendships have run quite long. That’s quite nice, but makes it a bit harder to let go of frequent communication with certain folks. I don’t not consider them friends, but I miss being (or feeling) out of touch with some.

    Question: does Facebook let you know you’ve been ‘unfriended’? Interesting.

    1. Thank you, my friend. You are very lucky to have so many friends for so long. I have some friends for over 30 years. Hard to believe I can say that since I’m only 25. LOL! I also have different friends for different reasons so sometimes I don’t see them as much, but they’re there. Which is nice.

      Facebook doesn’t tell you if you’ve been “unfriended.” Which is probably a good thing.

  3. I am sorry you lost your friend. I know from experience it hurts, especially when it happens with no explanation. I rationalize these people were never truly a friend in the first place if they simply disappeared, real friends do not abandon a friend. Friendships are unconditional. I would much rather surround myself with those who want me in their lives. And yes, new ones will fill their space as a friend. The void will always remain. We move on and enjoy those who bring us joy, happiness, and true friendship. It is life. Lovely post. Thank you for sharing your story. I look forward to reading more. 🙂

    1. Thank you, LA. Very kind words. Honestly, I’m not that upset that she “unfriended” me because the truth is, we haven’t been real friends in more years than I can count. Real friends stick by your side through thick and thin and never leave you for long. I’m not sure we get a lot of those in our lifetime, but I do believe I’m blessed to be walking the path with so many wonderful people right now. I hope they walk the path for a long while, but when it’s time to change direction, if that time comes, I wish them love and happiness. Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. Be sure to come visit us again. Sometimes I have cannolis. 😉

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